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A few posts ago, we discovered 20 reasons why it’s great to be 20 years old. Although 20 is something of a golden age, there are perks to getting older. Here’s 20 reasons why it’s great to no longer be 20 years old:
1- You can be 100% independent: This is it! The moment we wait our whole lives for- you are captain of your own ship, ruler of your roost or whatever expression you prefer. Point is- you direct your own life and you now live by your own rules. No more Mom and Dad telling you how to run your life and you having to comply. You decide what’s best for you as well as support yourself financially 100%.
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2- You’re no longer a broke college student: You have money- woohoo! You can afford to buy better food than Ramen Noodles for breakfast, lunch and dinner every night; no longer have to live in a crappy apartment and can buy your mom a Mother’s Day gift without Dad having to sign your name to a present he bought her. Or is that last one a disadvantage?
3- Traveling for vacation: If you’re like me, you worked through your college breaks. So now is the time to travel for vacation- don’t stay home or work more hours. Life’s memories are formed by experiences, not by staying home or working.
4- Having a nice apartment: Andrea’s college apartment looked like this- mattress on the floor in the living room, a broken futon in the bedroom, 1 closet with the door on crooked and a squirrel living in the roof. It did the job but after college and working a few months with my full time job, I can say my living quarters dramatically improved and so will yours. Real life tip- don’t live beyond your means. You don’t have to rent the penthouse suite to improve your living situation.
5-Taking care of yourself becomes a priority: You realize that all those ramen noodles and college cafeteria food can catch up with you. Take care of your body and it will take care of you. Go to the gym, join a running group or any sport/activity that interests you and eat well – it will pay off in the long run and make you feel better overall.
6- Goodbye teenage angst!: My teenage years up until my early twenties were spent listening to the likes of Marilyn Manson and NIN scream and shout about the pains of teenage angst. I can tell you that being angry just for the hell of being angry isn’t enlightening or even fun. Don’t sweat the small stuff- the only person it’s hurting is you and that goes against your new adult mantra of taking care of yourself doesn’t it?
7- Confidence and self assuredness: Although most of us are adventurous at 20, we often lack confidence and self assuredness. Why? Because we haven’t had experience in many things such as dealing with landlords, bosses, or having only ourselves to depend on in any given situation. With experience comes confidence and the ability to not let someone pressure you into something you don’t understand or want.
8-Knowing how to accomplish goals: When you’re 20 years old and rosy eyed, you don’t often realize how to accomplish goals. You might think “I want to be a singer!” but lack the know-how on the next steps you need to take to start making this dream a reality. Remember that experience and confidence thing? That really comes into play here as experience will guide you in accomplishing your goals (whilst not being used) and not just dreams.
9-Self reflection and Inner peace: With teenage angst gone, you need to fill that void in your soul and mind. Don’t put something negative back in- this is where inner peace should go. That doesn’t mean that you have to become a Buddhist and meditate for hours a day (kudos if you do!). It just means that you are a more calm and peaceful person who isn’t looking for negativity. With inner peace comes self reflection and realizing that it does take 2 to tango in every argument and that you aren’t as innocent as you think in those interactions. Being able to recognize and own up to past mistakes will help you be a better person.
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10- Getting more things done: Prioritization is truly a learned skill. Although you do practice this to a degree in college (ex: you do what term paper is due first), it’s something that you won’t really do until you’re working full time. When you only have 2 days off a week, you learn how to maximize that time to get more things done as you’re too busy with work during the week.
11- Increased credit card limit: In the USA, being able to buy big things revolves around credit. If you want to finance a new car or house you’ll need credit. I remember at 18 getting my first credit card with a limit of $1,000 and being so excited. Now, I have over a $10,000 credit card limit which will really help me to establish credit for that possibly soon 1st home purchase. The only downside to increased credit limits is increased responsibility. Many adults suffer from credit card debt which is easily avoidable.
12- Having a serious relationship: You’re out of college, lived on your own for a bit and want to find that special someone. Remember being selfish at 20 and discovering what your needs and wants are? That time helps you to determine who is an ideal mate for you (remember there is no such thing as a perfect mate). A serious relationship after college is a lot different than one during college now that you know your values, your wishes and pet peeves. Serious relationships are better at this stage as you’re not just dating any schmuck that comes your way but they can also be more heart breaking if you were thinking of marriage and your mate wasn’t.
13- Stop being a renter: Renting an apartment is great- if something breaks down, all you have to do is make a phone call at no extra cost to you. However, you also are just throwing money away. No bank is going to lend hundreds of thousands of dollars to a 20 year old with no credit to buy a house. But 27 years old with established credit and a good job? A much better chance of being able to end the renting game and own your own home.
14- Bye bye miss, hello ma’am!: For guys, you’re always sir but for ladies we start out as miss with the goal of ending at ma’am. Being called miss is not derogatory but it is a way of someone verbally recognizing your youth. Sometimes this is a compliment and sometimes it’s not. However, once you’re in your mid-twenties and have gained that experience and confidence, you’ll find more and more people address you as ma’am. This is the societal recognition that you are officially a grown up- woohoo!
15- It’s ok to stay in: Unless you’re an introvert like me, you spent your college years going out most weekends; staying in was for old folks. But as your priorities change from instant gratification via dancing the night away with sweaty strangers to saving for that dream vacation or house, you realize that it’s ok to stay in, at least once and a while.
16-Cheaper car insurance rates: Every driver under 25 can tell you the woes of having to pay sky high premiums for car insurance. Once you hit the big 2-5 you are considered a less risky driver and the premiums drop dramatically. This is a huge savings that your wallet will definitely notice. Andrea’s tip- use this extra cash to pay down your student loan.
17- No longer selfish: Remember at 20 how it was ok to be selfish? You knew that wouldn’t last forever and it doesn’t. Now that you know what’s best for you and better know yourself, you can be selfless in your relationships and really show your loved ones how much they mean to you. You’ll also find that for a serious romantic relationship to work and sustain, this is a key factor.
18-Invincabilty is gone: Raise your hand if you’ve ever pulled any crazy stunts or experimentation when you were in high school or a freshman in college-mine are both raised and so should yours! Being in our teens and early 20s gives us a feeling of invincibility- our bodies are at their prime, our determination is high and nothing can stop you. Only it can. My invincibility dreams went out the window when I worked for a car insurance company at 22 and had to listen to car accident descriptions every. single.day. I learned real quick that no matter what shape you’re in or how young you are, you can get hurt and it’s good to always practice safety first- you can stay alive longer and healthier that way.
19- You’re choosier about relationships (friends and romantic): Do you remember dating someone because they were cool or cute even though you had nothing in common? When we first start dating, we often choose mates based on superficial benefits like the crowd they hang with, the clothes they wear or the car they drive. Same goes for friends. As you get a little older, you realize that hanging out with drama queen Betty wasn’t fun and your friendship with her didn’t enrich your life. You only get 1 life so don’t waste time on people who aren’t worth it. Be choosier about friends and romance and you’ll be happier for it.
20- The future is less scary: Ok so the future is always a little scary because it’s the unknown but it’s not that bad. I remember my 2nd- 4th year of college being terrified of what life after graduation would be like- Would I get a job? What will I do for a living? Will I be able to support myself 100% and move out of my parent’s house? All of these were unknowns but you figure it out. Sometimes you take 1 direction and realize it’s not what you want and then you can try another one. The future is not rigid- it can be as flexible as you want. Just remember you have nothing to fear but fear itself!